Friday, June 17, 2011

Control - GBE2 Week Four

I have control issues.

First of all, I’m a tad OCD, so I do sometimes try to control things in my life just a bit too tightly. Secondly, as a victim of abuse, I have problems with someone else trying to control me. It gets my hackles up and I often find passive-aggressive methods to retaliate until I’m so fed up I become confrontational.

Then there’s the fact that I’m diabetic and should be in better control of my diet than I am. Not to mention that I’m overweight (obese, actually), so there’s another aspect of food control I should be dealing with.

I lost control of my finances long ago and am still dealing with the ramifications of that in my life.

But, now that I am getting older, I have a new issue of control to contend with. You may have seen Whoopie Goldberg’s recent commercials regarding this problem. You may even remember having seen June Allison doing some commercials about this.

This is urinary incontinence. That wonderful little gift of nature that more frequently visits women than men as they get older. (Why is it that women are the ones who have problems with the departure of bodily fluids? Why can’t men have something that involuntarily leaves their bodies with the help of gravity and at the most inopportune of times?)

Sure, some have fewer issues with this problem than others. And, I’m sure that a lot of it could be resolved with the infamous Kegel exercises to regain control over the muscles that we for too long take for granted. Child birth only adds to the problem, particularly if you’ve had multiple children.  You might recall that Bible verse that says “happy is the man whose quiver is full of (children)”. It doesn’t say anything about the woman who had to bear them. All that physical trauma to our bodies, however much love is behind it, can take its toll.

If someone had told me I’d be substituting one kind of pad for another once I was finally rid of the first kind, I’d have slapped them silly. That was the ONLY thing I looked forward to in my aging future and then you’re telling me it’ll be a trade-off? So, yes – I do take issue with that new loss of control over my body. Some day, I hope to have a talk with the manufacturer about my dissatisfaction.

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Blogger marieclv54 said...

Nice little unique story, I hope you get better control of your situations. Check out my blog, enjoy and follow me.

Thanks, Marie

June 17, 2011 at 7:11 PM  
Blogger Laurie Peel said...

LOL "substituting one kind of pad for another" too funny!

You can find my control post here:

June 17, 2011 at 9:24 PM  
Blogger Brenda Stevens said...

And u know what pisses me off men can put on the texas catheter and no 1 even knows they have it on. . .they can pee all day long. . . In a bag. Truckers do it all the time and they don't have to stop to peeDangit.
you have a great attitude!!!! Did u look into surgery?

June 17, 2011 at 10:52 PM  
Blogger Joyce Lansky said...

Life can be pretty sucky sometimes. Look at the bright side, at least as women we don't have wet dreams or ejaculate into our pants when someone hot walks by.

Hang in there.


June 18, 2011 at 11:38 AM  
Blogger Kate said...

Both my grandparents on my mom's side had/have osteoporosis and I haven't been taking nearly as much calcium as I should, since I'll be 30 in about a year and a half. I'm sorry for all your afflictions and am hoping that they don't wear you out too much day to day!

June 18, 2011 at 3:24 PM  
Blogger spark192000 said...

After 4 childrren and the "girlie" surgery..I am so there with you...the only "control I have in this area...Is to GO...and GO

June 18, 2011 at 4:59 PM  
Blogger Mojo Writin' said...

The only way I can control this is... Never cough, never sneeze, never laugh too hard - unless you have been to the toilet at least three times prior to such activity. Go to the loo before leaving the house.... and then go again! Know where all the toilets are on your route away from home. Always carry pads, always wear a pad and always know where to get more. Should you forget the pad, always carry a long coat to drape over your arm and hold before you when in 'wet patch' territory.... and this is just to go the bottom of the garden to put the trash out!
I exaggerate of course, a little, but I did enjoy reading a post which tackled an issue far too many women are embarrassed to talk about.

June 18, 2011 at 5:09 PM  
Blogger JulieDD said...

lol oh I'm not ready for substituting one pad for another...

June 18, 2011 at 6:29 PM  
Blogger Marian said...

Many blessings....

June 18, 2011 at 9:24 PM  
Blogger Langley said...

You always have the best posts. Yes, why is it that women are the ones who have problems with the departure of bodily fluids? Not fair!

June 18, 2011 at 9:36 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm guessing that you've tried them, but in case you haven't, Kegel exercises can sometimes help a great deal with urinary incontinence. One of my ex-clients now has toddler triplets (bless her!) after having three individual births and she was so dazzled at how much Kegels helped her that she manages to find a way to tout them to anyone who will listen.

June 18, 2011 at 11:18 PM  

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